Sometimes I’m astonished at how mean-spirited people can be. Not just anonymously, of course it takes a brave person to be mean anonymously, but the people who can be right in your face and make you cry, and never bat an eye.
I had to go to the hospital for a metting today and was talking to one of my friends that I work with. Since we’re all home-based, we only get to see each other every 3 months or so for deparment meetings and every other month for transcription meetings. Anyway, this friend of mine has a baby girl, not quite a year old, who was diagnosed with Turner Syndrome shortly after birth and has had open heart surgery to correct some cardiovascular problems. She has the mosaic type, so she won’t have many of the problems that some children with Turner Syndrome will be affected with, and after consulting with a geneticist, she and her husband are fairly certain that their daughter can have a normal life expectancy. That being said, a few weeks ago this co-worker was actually working in-house and talking with some other people who hadn’t known that her daughter had Turner’s. Our boss overheard her talking to the other employees and came over and joined in the discussion. She immediately told the other employees that this child would have severe learning disabilities, never be able to have children, blah, blah, blah. My friend tired to interject that her daughter has the mosaic type, which is less severe and would probably be fine, at which point our boss interjected, “Back in the day when female children had Turner syndrome there were sterilized so they could never have children since their children have a 50/50 chance of passing on the gene”. By this time my friend was in tears she was so upset. Did the boss apologize, or even realize that she was hurting my friend? If she did, she certainly didn’t show any sign. Didn’t apologize, nothing. And if I know her, she was probably feeling very smug because she’s was so “knowledgable” about Turner’s. She’s the type of person who knows everything about anything and doesn’t hesitate to share her knowledge. I just marvel that someone could be so cruel.
Then tonight I found out through a friend that a blogger she knew of also had to put a doxie to sleep within the last few days. Since I know I she felt, and I love doxies, I went to her blog to express my sympathy. She had posted several pictures of her doxie and one, which I thought was really cute, showed the dog with her head in an ice cream carton. Dachshunds may be short, but they’re mighty scavengers and I’m sure this had once been in the trash! I went to the blog comments and couldn’t believe it when the first poster told her that the dog probably would have lived longer if it wasn’t so fat from eating ice cream and obesity kills. For Pete’s sake! This girl just had to put her dog to sleep you moron! And being the brave “man” that he was, he signed his name but didn’t leave a link. Just a hurtful, spiteful comment when this person was hurting. I hope it made him feel better. Asshat.
I hate mean people. I really do.